Update: This post was originally published in June 2011. It has been re-edited and expanded upon. Enjoy!
The path of leaving work behind is littered with obstacles and at times your efforts can seem entirely fruitless.
If you are reading this, you may well be considering throwing the towel in. If you think that you’ve had enough, then you may as well close your browser down now and turn the television on.
Still with me? Great!
That’s all we need — the small ounce of staying power that still exists in you. We can develop that into something much stronger. As long as there is still a scrap of determination left in you, we can exploit it to better your chances of success.
I can spend all day telling you to persist and work hard, but by now, you will probably feel like those paths are well worn by the dusty boot heels of your failure. You need something more. That’s what I plan to give you.
Leaving Work Behind Is a Hopeless Venture
The above statement is absolutely true for every single person who has tried and given up.
It clearly was a hopeless venture for them, as they reached their breaking point without experiencing the requisite level of success. For everyone else who is still trying, leaving work behind is possible; you just have to figure out how.
The Formula for Success
In logical terms, success is achieved by executing a very simple formula:
Endeavour + Competence + Time = Success
You can translate that formula into three steps:
- Undertake to succeed
- Carry out that undertaking with adequate ability
- Follow steps 1 and 2 until success is achieved
From an objective perspective, if you do not succeed, you did not apply yourself properly and/or did not apply yourself for long enough. It’s that simple.
My Experiences With Prolonged Failure
When I first started on my journey to leaving work behind, I had no idea how I would create a successful online business. But I started anyway — I picked what I thought was a good opportunity to make money (niche sites) and I ran with it.
Fast-forward several months and I had nothing to show for it. In fact, I had lost money. You can see this for yourself by scanning through my monthly income at the time.
I could have given up then. After all — my efforts had resulted in nothing but failure. Fortunately, my drive to succeed was strong and I still believed that success is ultimately a matter of persistence.
Then, in September 2011, I got the break I so sorely needed: I landed my first freelance blogging job. I didn’t hesitate to grab the opportunity I had discovered. Three months later I quit my job.
Fast-forward to present day, and in October 2013 I made $5,661 from my writing business.
It all began with that break back in September 2011 — incidentally, with an opportunity that I never saw coming. I had never imaged that freelance blogging would be the solution for me. It’s a good thing I didn’t give up when all I had to show for my efforts were failure.
Knowing When to Change Tack
The main moral of the above story is that persistence is so often the key to success. But there’s more to it than that — your persistence must considered. After all, there does come a point when you have beaten a particular venture to death.
If you are certain that whatever you are doing is not going to reap sufficient rewards, consider a change of tack. You are not giving up by doing so — you are making a smart decision to move onto opportunities that are more likely to get you to where you want to be.
The ability to recognize when you will not be able to achieve your goals is extremely valuable. It will help enormously. Giving up will not.
Are You Sure You’re Not Capable of Leaving Work Behind?
If you have read this far and still think that quitting your job and building an online business is impossible, fine. I will not try to persuade you otherwise. However, I do want you to consider three questions:
- Are you happy with your personal situation?
- Do you enjoy your job?
- Do you have as much money as you would like?
Why do I ask these questions? Because the act of leaving work behind, executed correctly, can positively affect all three areas.
If you are sure that you cannot succeed in your online venture, then what is going to replace it as your ticket to improving all three areas of your life? If there is nothing, are you truly ready to give up on the meaning of life?
The Alternatives
If you’ve decided that making money online isn’t for you, you need to find what is.
Find something that can catapult you to better things. There is no person in this world that is as happy or successful as he or she possibly can be. While leaving work behind is most often typified by quitting your job and building a successful lifestyle business, that is not the only path.
Alternatively, simply exist and accept what you have, and try to find peace in that. Not my preferred option.
There is always room for personal improvement. I strongly believe that anyone can carve out a niche for themselves. It does not have to be making money online. You could find happiness and fulfillment in youth coaching, plumbing, or business consultancy. Who knows? The point is, if you haven’t found that niche, by halting your efforts you are giving up on the potential for a higher quality of life and resigning yourself to the status quo.
A Concluding Question
What would you rather do — frustrate yourself trying damn hard to make things better for yourself, or simply accept that you will never be content? I’ll pick frustration every time.
Don’t forget that the Leaving Work Behind community is here to support you. Join us on the forums, share your concerns and frustrations, and we will only be too happy to help.
Photo Credit: micheleart
Dave Fowler says
Hi Tom, this post made me laugh… in a very, very good way.
I laughed because I’ve toyed with quitting so many times but came to my senses and pulled back from the brink just in time. For me there is only one option… to persist and live a better life. The other option really isn’t an option at all.
Thanks for writing this!
Tom Ewer says
No problem Dave – thanks for commenting! These very first posts didn’t get much love 😉
Brooks Conkle says
Honestly, I’m not really on the verge of quitting, but that was a very good title for a post — it made me click haha!
Tom Ewer says
Then it did its job 😉
Michel says
Hi Tom!
I’ve been in the process of reading a lot of blogs like yours in the past 2 weeks. And since blogs are just like books for me, I always read them all, backwards from the beginning of their story…
I know that when I start my journey, I will have to work hard, but one thing is for sure, never quit! Read somewhere that only 1% of blogs are still in operation after 6 months and that it’s number one key to success. I guess that when you don’t make your blog as your endgame’s key to success, you will get sucked up in family, friends and job matters and slowly lose all the focus and the hype you first had.
Even before beginning, I know for sure that time and hard work can make it happen. Unless one wants to be a gaziolionnaire, having a decent life while sharing your passion is a possibility still open to everyone. The playing field might saturate within 5-10 years (not sure about this one since the rate of dropouts is close to 100%!), but hanging in there and being devoted is for sure the key. And I would say that like in all spheres of life, time and devotion to it is the key.
I would then correct your equation: endeavour + competence = time. By keeping at it, the endeavour and competences will develop anyways.
I will let you know when my blog begins it’s journey, but reading your blog is a great inspiration. I’m a future stay at home dad who’s first priority is to see his kids grow up. Well, the endeavour includes finding a girlfriend and building a family together, but in the 3-5 years before that happen, I want to write my story and help people do the same for the same reasons.
Regards,
Michel
Well, I’ll go back to reading your entire blog,
Tom Ewer says
Thanks for sharing your thought Michel 🙂
Tanya Jacksom says
Hi Tom,
Love your site, my brother suggested checking it out, I just got diagnosed with Leukemia and chronic depression (Couldn’t stop crying) and lost my job, all in a 2 week period. He suggest I try writing as a way to earn money, and some cheap therapy….. He reads your blog…
You’ve given me some great ideas to pursue… thanks…
Tom Ewer says
Hey Tanya,
That’s a terrible two weeks, I’m so sorry to read that. Please do get in touch via email if there’s anything you think I can do to help you — I’ll do anything I can.
Cheers,
Tom
Elvis Michael says
That’s very touching, Tanya, and we all wish you the very best. And Tom, thanks for another great article!
Cyrus says
Thanks for the encouraging words. I have freelanced off and on for 15 years and I can tell you that I have struggled with these issues even when I was making over 200k. Freelancing is just not for the faint of heart. There is something unsettling about being on your own no matter how much money you make or how long you do it. If you let your emotional guards down, you drown. If you are not worried about going hungry, then you worry about losing your 10k / month client. There is always a secret pull to go back to being an employee and let someone else make the hard decisions. And if you do that you feel stuck since you know the freedom of being a freelancer.
Jackson Davies says
Hi Cyrus, thanks for your added insight. I don’t feel that I’m alone so much as alone in my own decision. When you go on a freelancing venture you are calling the shots and can’t step off the gas. I’m still at the employee stage at the moment but I want to pull the pin out of the being my own boss grenade soon. 10k a month for just one client, awesome! The “free” part of freelancing is the important part and yet nobody is truly free.
Cyrus says
10k/month is great but I have also had lean years with as low as 2k/month and had to eat into savings. But either way, up or down , this article applies. The point I was trying to make is that even when you are making money there is still a temptation/pressue to just give up and go work for someone else.
Tom Ewer says
Hey Cyrus,
I agree with most of what you’re saying apart from the “secret pull” to go back to employment. I can honestly say that I have not once had that temptation since quitting my job!
Freelancing provides its own unique challenges and is not for everyone. But for those who can handle it (like you clearly can!), it kicks employment’s ass 😉
Cheers,
Tom
Cyrus says
“I have not once had that temptation since quitting my job!”
Perhaps the “secret pull” is me projecting !:)
Probably why I read your blog to get over it.
Tom Ewer says
I hope I can help!
axelantasbergkvist says
I’d choose frustration, definitely.
Tom Ewer says
That’s good to read!